Body, Mind and Spirit
Sexual feelings and emotions
. The first factor says that sexuality belongs to the whole person; body. mind and spirit. It is truly said that every part of person is part of a whole. Attraction is not only an affair of the mind but also of the heart, the body and the spirit. Pleasures and sexual gratification is not for the body’s attainment alone but for the whole self. Attraction is processed by the whole body, mind, by the whole aspect of a person. One may be aware of his attraction to a woman yet it looks also to the physical body which somehow needed to be processed from self-centered level to others. Second factor is on how do I see myself on relating with others, who I am to others and how do I look to others. Lastly, it is the higher level where the level of emotion that is being aware of. The sexual feelings and emotion is rationally evaluated and processed morally while not being repressed.
Healthy integration
When I have reached a healthy integration, I will know that my sexuality is one of the ways in which God reveals himself to me and that through my sexuality, he also reveals himself to others. This I understand that my whole being as a sexual person is significant in relating with others. My mind, my body and spirit relates as one. Being a whole person in having a relationship with others requires integrated self. For being who I am is reflected by other sexual persons. The intimacy I have to myself will be the same intimate relationship I can have to others in summation of my relationship to God. My relationship to other people is how will I relate with God.
Free choice
Free choice, I can say, is learned from the beginning of life, on how I am oriented by my family and to the whole environment and experiences, understanding and development. Psycho-sexual maturity is very important since free choice comes from that maturity. Experiences of being loved and valued by my family and by other people give me positive outlook in life. I will be free choosing the way I value surpasses the difficulties, challenges, and temptations anytime, anywhere.
